Wednesday, September 30, 2009

35. The Black Girl Next Door


A Memoir
by Jennifer Baszile

Having grown up in the Chocolate City, and gone to predominately Black schools from preschool through college.  The only time I would see White people was on television or maybe at the mall. So, I don't have any experience being the "other".  I have always been surrounded by "my own" and the comfort that comes with it.

Jennifer's story is much different than mine.  When her family moved to the predominately White, upper middle-class suburb of  Palos Verdes, California, she literally became The Black Girl Next Door.  Her parents want for their children what most parents do: to have a better life and opportunities than they did.  Jennifer spent much of the first 18 years of her life trying to fit into a world that wasn't necessarily made for her - wanting to portray Harriet Tubman for a school function when the less controversial Rosa Parks is forced upon her; wanting a makeover for a school dance and having the counter lady (who obviously has no experience with dark skin) turn you into a clown; having to have "appropriate" Black boys imported in just to have a social life.  While she has to work hard to assimilate, her parents also expect her to retain some sort of Blackness and follow rules that are never quite spelled out for her.

I found this to be a great memoir, especially near the end of Jennifer's high school career when an event at home kind of explodes.  Consquently, she becomes more aware of her personal power and just more of herself, period.  The fact that I came of age and could recognize a lot of the cultural references made it that much more wonderful.

Forced Mojo

I need to force my sewing mojo out of its deep sleep.  When I started this blog a couple of years ago, I named it Sew Transformed.  After reading blogs like Carolyn's, Adrienne's & Erica's, I was inspired and wanted to dust my sewing machine off and tell y'all about it. That's the "Sew" part. The "Transformed" part was to focus on what I was reading, because books can transform our lives. As you can see, there has been way more transforming than sewing happening around here.

One of the reasons has been my fit issues. I've said here before that I have gained weight in my adult years and I don't have the sewing skills or the patience to alter patterns to fit this new body. I'm working on it though. Another, and possibly more important, reason is that the stuff I want to make doesn't fit into my current lifestyle. A lifestyle that entails going to work and then coming home.  At work I have a dress code, which is basically the uniform of a barista at a popular coffee house:

This is what I wear to work every day!  I work in a bookstore that has a cafe in it, and while I am not a barista, as a supervisor I have to be prepared to work over there if needed.  Yes, I can make you a mean latte, but my cappuccinos suck!  I hate wearing the same thing everyday and sometimes I sneak in an orange or turquoise polo just to shake things up and to get compliments. On the non-work front - nothing.  I rarely have money to go out and when I do it is to the grocery store or the movies by myself.  Those are t-shirt and jeans times.  Not much need to sew nice things.

Recently, the crashing economy has made me realize that I need to start working on Plans B, C, D.  Retail has been hard by the recession and we aren't bouncing back at all yet.  Those plans require a more versatile wardrobe than I currently have.  I have a whole library of fashion and style books and they all have the "must have" lists in them.  Reading over them just reminds me that I have nothing on those lists in my closet! I don't have a little black dress, or a pair of black pants or a trenchcoat.  If, God willing, I got a call for a job interview tomorrow, I don't have one thing in my closet that I could wear!  I don't have an updated resume either, but that's another story.

So, I need to get moving and make some basic pieces and will start work on them this week. I also need to free some money up to buy some fabric because the fabric on these shelves are good for accent pieces, not the foundation for a wardrobe.

I collected most of that fabric (and the many boxes you don't see) when I didn't have a dress code and I did have more of a social life.  So wish me luck as I pull the rug from under my sewing mojo and force her to get to work!



34. Feminista


by Erica Kennedy

I loved Kennedy's first book, Bling, and was excited to find out that she had another book coming out.  I didn't find it right away because, unlike Bling, which was shelved in our African-American fiction section, Feminista has been placed by the buyers in Literature. For those of you that don't know, ever since the Internet was invented, there have been ongoing discussions & arguments about the segregation of Black authors in a "special" section in bookstores.  Most authors, especially of fiction, want the work that they have labored so hard over to be available to and read by the greatest number of people. They feel that a mainstream (read White) audience won't find them in the African-American section. And because I am in the trenches of bookselling every day, I can tell you that they are right.  In my bookstore, the African-American fiction section is right at the top of the escalator - the first thing you see when you step off.  White people stop there and quickly move on (except for a creepy older gentleman who browses there and buys some of the urban fiction; he doesn't liked to be greeted and I'm afraid to find out what the deal is with him).  On the other hand, when Black authors are shelved in the Literature section, White people don't buy them either.  When we try to handsell them books, if they see any depiction of African-Americans on the cover, they politely say "No, thank you".  But I digress.  If you want to know more about this issue, head on over to the blog of one of my favorite authors, Carleen Brice.

I said all that because, even though Feminista is written by a Black author, I believe that the story is a universal one and I look forward to recommending it to my chick-lit reading customers who are craving a little more depth.  Sydney is a NYC dweller who writes puff pieces for a celebrity magazine.  Although she gets to hobnob with socialites and celebrities, she is longing for something new.  Her history of dating losers (aspiring artists, aspiring musicians, aspiring...you know the type), she makes the decision to get more serious and considers settling down and having a family.  She enlists her lesbian sister's help in finding a suitable husband-to-be.  In a parallel story, Max, the pampered, rich son of a department store owner.  His sister's pregnancy forces her to be put on bed rest, which forces Max to have to actually come in to the store and work for real.  He is feeling the same way as Sydney does.  Tired of dating clueless models who only want the free merchandise they can get from him, he, too starts to look for something more substantial and permanent.

The beauty of this book surrounds the suspense of Sydney and Max.  Are they going to meet? Are they serious about making changes in their lives?  Will they revert back to their comfort zones?  I think that the title Feminista is very important in that Sydney really struggles with her role as a single, working woman in today's society.  Like a lot of modern women, she has lost some of her femininity and vulnerability while traversing the work world. Watching that side of her evolve in the book is really interesting.  I really loved this book and could not put it down.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

33. Nappily in Bloom

by Trisha R. Thomas


This is the fourth (I think) in the "Nappily" series featuring the adventures of natural haired Venus. Nappily in Bloom finds her finally becoming comfortable in her new home in Atlanta with her husband Jake and their daughter Mya. Although she still longs for their old life in California, Venus has now purchased a flower shop and making the best of it. Mya's biological father, Airic is still a problem and his many infidelities are finally getting too much for his televangelist with, Trevelle Doval (who I always picture as Juan.ita By.num. I can't help it).

The drama begins when Jake's business partner, Legend, arrives from California dredging up the dark events that sent them to Georgia in the first place. Venus hates Legend, so she throws herself into her new project: planning the quickie wedding of Trevelle's biological daughter Keisha.

You must have read the last book, Nappily Faithful, in order to follow all of the intertwined relationships of this one, and there are many. While the intrigue of the book definitely kept me reading well into the night (and also because I had to return the book back to work), there are a couple of things that bothered me. The ending came kind of fast. A kidnapping was wrapped up a little too quickly, and an unlikely romance appeared that made absolutely no sense to me. But Thomas is four books in and I have to believe that there are more on the horizon, so maybe some plotlines will be fleshed out later.

This is by far not my favorite in the series, but I am invested in Venus and her life now so I'm not giving it up. These books are keeping us entertained until the movie version of the first one, Nappily Ever After comes out. Waiting on you, Halle!

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

32. Daughters of the Stone

by Dahlma Llanos-Figueroa

Daughters of the Stone is the saga of five generations of Afro-Puerto Rican descent that shows all of their power, resilience and vulnerability. This debut novel starts with Fela's arrival on a plantation in Puerto Rico where she is to work as a slave doing embroidery for the area's wealthy. Back in Nigeria, Fela and her husband were unable to have children. As a last effort to conceive, her husband selects a stone to hold the soul of their child and they use it in a ritual next to the Oshun River, so that the Goddess herself could bless their lovemaking. Soon after, their village is decimated, Fela's husband is killed and she is sold into slavery. Making the trans-Atlantic voyage with Fela is the stone, which gives her strength as she embarks on this new chapter in her life.

This stone, along with some powers of magic are passed along from female to female among the descendants of Fela. Relationships between mothers and daughters are fully explored here with all the complications that entails. While some turn their back on the magic and "old ways" of their ancestors, the stories and the stone always endure and the generations are brought full circle in their journey. One of the best books that I have read all year and I look forward to reading more by Llanos-Figueroa.

August Reading

29. Netherland by Joseph O'Neill
Yes, this is one of the books that President Obama took with him on vacation. No, I am not that much of a Obamaholic that I will pick up a book because he is reading it! LOL! This book has been in my "to-read" pile for over a year and I am just finally getting around to it. Netherland is the story of Hans, a Dutch banker now living in America with his English wife and their infant son. When his wife returns to London with their child after 9/11, Hans (not ready to abandon his New York lifestyle) finds himself alone, living in a hotel. He winds up befriending a Trinidadian businessman over their mutual love of the sport of Cricket. It's interesting to see Hans drawn into the lives of his West Indian team members and out into boroughs beyond Manhattan that he never would have explored. Not exactly a fish out of water story, because he swims along so willingly. Downside of the book: really heavy on descriptions of cricket matches, which is a complicated sport that hasn't caught on with Americans, and O'Neill uses a lot of words. His descriptions sometimes go on forever, and while his writing is incredible, by the end of the book I was so exhausted that I didn't read the last 2 pages!

30. Tempations and Lies by Donna Hilll

The ladies of TLC are back. Masquerading as a Mary Kay-like cosmetics firm, TLC actually stands for The Ladies Cartel and that lipstick probably contains pepper spray. These ladies are trained to fight crime. This installment is about Nia Turner who finally gets her first assignment to get information on the operations and identify the players in what will be a huge sex scandal. The only problem is that it appears that the person who is heading it is her ex.


31. I Drink for A Reason by David Cross

A hilarious collection of essays by one of my favorite comedians. If you are easily offended, don't read this. Cross goes after Bill O'Reilly, Jim Belushi, and Whoopi Goldberg. Institutions aren't safe either. He expresses his distaste of organized religion (especially Mormons), conservatives and music snobs. There are also links in the book that steer you toward extra content online. If you like to laugh, possibly at yourself, and if you are a true David Cross fan, then you shouldn't miss this.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

On The Sewing Front...

Yes, I completed a garment. Yes, it was the easiest top in the world. Yes, it took me a couple months to do it - my mojo disappears as fast as it arrives. No, it doesn't look good on me - yet. It might when I lose a few more pounds.

















Vogue 8581 - Very cute. I will make the long sleeve version later on.


Even though my closet of currently wearable clothes is so empty, I had a couple of bins of items that I really loved that I couldn't wear anymore. It's especially hard to let go of things that I made with my very own hands, but I've gotten rid of some stuff. One of the dresses that was so hard to let go of was this knit dress. The knit was a cheap dollar bin fabric from Hancock's with not much give. I lined it with tricot. I made it about 7 years ago and have never worn it, but I love it like I gave birth to it. I released it to my friend Camille, and she looks awesome in it:

It fits her perfectly and with her social life, she will get way more wear out of it than I ever will! (Excuse the wrinkles, it has been in that bin for years!)